Life and Spiritual Coaching

October 22, 2008

Enjoy Yourself – Don’t take on other’s problems

Filed under: Life Balance,Life Coaching — by Donna Ritter @ 11:51 pm
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How do you treat yourself? Do you realize that you are a unique and special individual that God loves just because of yourself? You have all the power you need to live the life you have always wanted to live.

Think about how we treat ourselves every day. How often do we blame ourselves for other people’s problems? Do we talk to ourselves with love and care? Do we show enough respect to our self? Let us take a moment and think about what we do when we make a mistake or do not get the desired result? Do we tell ourselves off? How many times do we call ourselves ‘Stupid’ or use a similar word to express our dissatisfaction? If we think about these questions deeply then we will discover that often we treat ourselves unfairly. And when we do not treat ourselves properly, the world treats us in the same way. It can even affect our mental and physical health.

Now is time to break the cycle! There is no one in this world as special as you and you should treat yourself that way. Take care of yourself, your heath and your emotional well being. Take time to exercise, eat right and play. Take meditation and prayer walks.I had this bad habit myself. Whenever I made a mistake or even of those I loved made a mistake, I used to blame myself, and carried a feeling of guilt with me. What happens if we do this? First, our subconscious mind accepts whatever we say as true. If we say to ourselves, we are not good at doing something. Immediately our subconscious mind receives this message and records it as true; because it does not judge any statement, we make.

When I realized the way we talk or communicate to ourselves decides the quality of our life and our effectiveness, I changed my approach. I desperately wanted to break free from this never-ending cycle. So, what did I do?


I took responsibly for what was truly my fault, sought forgiveness and moved on. For the rest of the mistakes made around me, I supported my loved ones without taking their blame on myself and began to find ways to enjoy my life. Have fun – you deserve it!

October 19, 2008


Filed under: God — by Donna Ritter @ 1:31 pm
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I am in two bible studies right now that happen (although there is no such thing as coincidence in my book) to both be on the fruits of the spirit. Do you think God is trying to tell me something?  One is a Beth Moore study called “Living Beyond Yourself” and the other has a little booklet for each “fruit” – this week’s was on Patience. These studies have helped me to look at things from a more spiritual point of view.

Here are the 9 fruits of the Holy Spirit listed one right after the other in a bullet point format:

  • Love
  • Joy
  • Peace
  • Patience
  • Kindness
  • Goodness
  • Faithfulness
  • Gentleness
  • Self-control

Now here is the specific verse from Scripture where these 9 fruits are being given to us by the Lord:

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.” (Galatians 5:22)

So far in my study we have seen that:


·         Love never fails

·         Joy commeth

·         Peace rules

·         Patience waits.


Patience is a sorely needed quality in the fast paced world in which we live in today. I found that after doing my studying today, one of the people that I lose patience with quickly is my daughter. There are two Greek words used to describe patience in the bible. They are makrothumia and hupomone. The first means to be long suffering in relation to people (inspired by mercy) and the second means to persevere, remain under, circumstances or succumb under trial – in relation to circumstances (inspired by hope). I am sorely in need of makrothumia when dealing with my kids! Just look at how people treat each other today. Not with love and patience, but quite the opposite.

The words in this bible passage are so relevant to us today. Who doesn’t want the fruits of the spirit to rule their behavior – their lives? Only through the Holy Spirit can we continually live our lives in the Fruits of the Spririt!



October 14, 2008

Put Joy into Your Work

Filed under: Life Balance — by Donna Ritter @ 12:21 pm
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Put Joy into Your Work

Sabrina Schleicher, Ph.D.

Have you been feeling the doldrums with your job lately? Do you find yourself procrastinating with certain tasks? Is it hard to get up in the morning to get to work? If you answered “yes” to these questions, chances are there is incongruence between your job and your life purpose. And, the good news is, you don’t have to quit your job to address this incongruence (unless you really want to!)
In my Coaching Groups, we work on articulating our life purpose as a means to increasing our joy in our work. Yes, you have a life purpose. No, you don’t have to create it out of thin air. You already know what it is, even if you haven’t put words on it yet. You have been living out your purpose all of your life. Your life purpose is about the essence of who you are. It is who you can’t help but be.
There are many ways to identify your
life purpose. One way is through art. Art is a powerful tool for self-exploration. Art bypasses words and language. Art allows us to express the core of who we are, even when we can’t find the words to do so. And, you don’t have to be artistic to benefit from using art for self exploration.
Try this: Make a collage using magazine pictures, photos, or any random items that capture your interest.  As you are selecting things to include in your collage, the key is not to think too much. Just select pictures or items that you are drawn to.  Arrange them in your collage in whatever way feels good to you.

Once you have completed your collage, ask yourself these questions:

  • What feelings come up as you look at your collage?
  • What themes do you see?
  • What colors or patterns stand out?
  • What does your collage say about who you are?

Write your answers to these questions. Put your collage aside for a day or two. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself thinking about your collage off and on. What thoughts and feelings come up? Jot these down.

Then come back to your collage. Notice what is in your collage and what you have written down. To take this one step further, share your collage with a trusted friend or colleague. Ask for their feedback as to what the collage says about you. 
What words or phrases come up repeatedly? Use these words or phrases to write a few sentences about your life purpose. Start with the words, “I am…” and go from there. See what comes up. Play with this.

How do you feel as you read your life purpose aloud? You may feel what you have written is only partially done. That is ok. Articulating your life purpose is an on-going process. By doing this exercise, you have begun to develop a sense of your life purpose, and that is sufficient for looking at how your life purpose relates to your job.

When you feel lagging energy for your work, what is happening in your job that may be incongruent with your life purpose? What options are there for dealing with that? How are you expressing your life purpose in your work? What might you do this week to bring your life purpose into your work?

Answering these questions AND taking action on your answers will put you on the path to bringing joy into your work.


October 9, 2008

Joy Commeth!

Filed under: Christ — by Donna Ritter @ 4:46 pm
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I went to my bible study today. I am taking a Beth Moore Study called “Living beyond yourself”. If any of you haven’t heard her speak you are missing out. This week’s study was “The Joy of the Lord is our Strength”. We have been learning about the fruits of the Spirit. Joy is the second fruit of the Spirit.


She talked about having 2 kinds of joy – an objective joy, like you have when you know you are saved by the grace of God and a subjective joy that you feel physically making you want to dance. There are many times in our lives when that subjective joy can be crushed by grief, sadness or fear. But that objective joy we have never goes away. In the bible, Christ may have lost his subjective joy, but he retained his objective joy because he was going to the cross to save our souls!


Worldly joy is fleeting. No matter how great it appears it leaves emptiness. It is lagged with a haunting awareness. But those who sow with tears will return with joy. God’s joy abides forever for those who believe in him and obey his commandments. Why would anyone turn their back on that? Even your loved ones at home hurt you, but He does not. Joy commeth! Joy commeth in the final days and I can’t wait to experience it. The colors we see are like we are looking through a smoky glass. There will be no tears, no illnesses, no fear, and no sin in Heaven. The streets will be paved with gold. There will be no darkness, only the natural light of God! I don’t know about you – but I want a part of that! I am ready as soon as it happens! In fact, sometimes I feel like it is almost upon us. The world is in such a mess. But Joy Commeth – thus say the Lord! I’m ready and waiting. In the mean time I stay planted in the word and I abide in Christ. He is waiting with baited breath for our arrival – we are his bride. Joy Commeth!

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